Monday, April 30, 2007

A Disgusting Opinion on Indonesian Women

Sunday morning, while I was having a superb brunch at Four Season Hotel with five friends of mine, I was so pissed off by an article appeared in The Jakarta Post. David and Ri told us about this article that they read earlier before coming to see us. (Advice: read the article first, before you read my posting through)

At glance, I wouldn't think this article is annoying as written on the title "More sex please, we're British", but after have read it, I say that it's the most disguisting article ever written. And why in the hell they could publish it?

The article was written by Duncan Graham, The Jakarta Post contributor lives in Surabaya, East Java. It was an interview to an old pensioner and former military pilot, Sheldon Archer, who apperently lives near Surabaya, in Probolinggo. The article is a story & confession about how Mr.old-b*****d Archer and his typical-village-woman-and-of-course-uneducated Indonesian wife, Yuyun, got together in a knot of marriage. Well, you would say, "what's wrong with that?"

What annoyed me is how he's ignorantly and so rude to describe his experience marries to an Indonesian woman...

This is what he said in the article:
"I could never have got married to someone like Yuyun if I was still in England. Here there are no problems", "I married a child", "Let's face it; every middle-aged man has a fantasy of making it with a young girl -- just ask Bill Clinton. Here in Indonesia fantasy can become fact"

Yeah, look how old he's and this village woman sees him as a money tree, no matter how old he is. In Indonesia, most in villages, sadly, the people always think that foreigners have better economic scale than Indonesian, which is true. So, that's why, Yuyun married him as her ticket to a better life. His statement on “fantasy”, is totally exaggerating & I don't think it's something that we, as Indonesian woman, can be proud of.

What really ignorant is this:
"I had to become a Muslim to marry. I just mumbled a few words I didn't understand. I'm not religious and Yuyun isn't serious about religion."

Hell, his statement is really degrading and has misperception on muslim marriage.

This article is nothing compared to the website run by him, as a very potential business. Check out An Asian Wife:

"Would you like a wife who never complains, nags or refuses sex? One who devotes her life to making you happy ... who will love you as a person and not as a meal ticket?"

Hey, the way he said as if a wife is similar as a dog. Of course, Yuyun & the rest of village women will never complains, nags or refuses sex. Have you ever heard about communication barrier? This is it, these women can’t speak your language & how could they say it!

More about this website, it’s you to judge…for me this site is more than just matchmaker service, it’s a human trafficking and hidden prostitution.

No wonder he said, "They'd call me a dirty old man back in my hometown Sheffield.”

I think you ‘re more than that!!!

3 comments:

Unknown said...

Hello,
I just want to say that I felt the same way about the article on the Post. Although it is sad in a way but I believe there are more couples sharing similar experiences with this couple.

It's also very surpising that the jakarta Post published that article as I would have thought that it will be publish to a "lower" paper than the post.

The post are read by many upscale and educated people as well as a big portion of expats in Indonesia so I can't imagine how they respond to it.

I just hope that these readers were able to disect and read between the lines of what goes beneath this sad story.

Keep up the good work.

Riyani,
Houston, TX

icus syaefudin said...

hi..are u trying to say that village women are uneducated?well that's mean..don't u think so?I came from village,I'm well-educated,I got diploma,I married a French,I speak English and French,I've been to many countries I have a good carrier now..!icus,Los Angeles,CA

heny said...

"I could never have got married to someone like Yuyun if I was still in England. Here there are no problems", "I married a child", "Let's face it; every middle-aged man has a fantasy of making it with a young girl -- just ask Bill Clinton. Here in Indonesia fantasy can become fact"

What he mean by this! it kind of he is a child predator "sicko"
oi woman is human no matter what skin and citizen of the world they are treat them as human respect them. dont treat them like a sex worker or slave. if you coming to asia just trying to find a wife that you can boss around you wrong mate. its true asian people are more family oriented and respect their husband and priorities the husband n her family but doesnt mean you can boss them around!